A post here is LONG overdue. That said, let me just get straight to things so I avoid rambling.
This is one of those things that’s soooo simple I’m afraid it will get overlooked and discounted, much like God telling the Isrealites to look at Moses’ staff to be healed in the wilderness. I see empaths making this mistake over and over again though, even when they should know better.
So what is the “trick”? Do NOT be a slave to your feelings. I know this runs contrary to popular culture, and much teaching (or talk at least) about empathic ability. Feelings are sacred! Feelings are power to shape the universe! I understand getting caught up in that mess too. I’ve had friends literally half a world away that I could sense everything going on in their lives.
Feelings are irrational and can lead you down dangerous paths sometimes. The classic, hell stereotypical example of falling in love with a physically and emotionally abusive bad boy (or girl), for example. Your heart can lead you astray when dealing with con artists and “players” also. Then there’s just getting sucked into other peoples’ hate also. Those kind of people feed on the negative energy you send them.
If you learn to pay attention to feelings without worshiping them… Use your intellect to explore if they’re yours, somebody else’s or even rational, you can do ALOT to take back control of your emotional well being as well as your mental and physical health.
The alternative is becoming a person who is always consumed by sadness and drama, and attracting even more of it to you. Remember, Energy Flows Where Attention Goes. Optionally, you could get angry, bitter and withdraw from much of life. That’s an even bigger hell for an empath. No matter how much we think we’re introverts, we need other people around us.
Sadly, most empaths are so dependent upon their empathy as a radar and interpersonal communication guide, they don’t even realize that you can shield yourself from emotional energy just like any other form of spiritual energy. You may have to cut spiritual attachment “cords” though to be truly effective.
One trick here that I’ve only recently figured out (there’s ALWAYS room to learn and grow) is to use a bubble shield and then “feel” the emotions hitting the shield without letting them through. It’s been a godsend technique for me.